If you have never spent much time at nudist resorts, it might seem counter-intuitive to you that people are sexiest when at least partly clothed, but it is true to at least my own experience.
I should have hundreds of memories of naked women from the times I’ve been to resorts. And, there is both a way in which I do — and a way in which I don’t.
To illustrate: A young friend of mine is a former Victoria’s Secret’s model. Over the years, she and I have been to nudist resorts somewhere between 20 and 40 times. Out of all the times seeing her nude, I can only recall one image of her I associate with sexy, even despite her physical beauty.
That image comes from a late afternoon when I began wondering why I had so often been nude with Suzanne, but didn’t lump the memories I had of her nude in with my fondest memories of sexy women. So I made a conscious effort to thing of her as sexy. And it worked. Even today, years later, if I reminiscence for awhile on the sexy looking women I’ve known, the image of her that afternoon is likely to pop up sooner or later.
I have at least three or four other images like that of women I’ve been to nudist resorts with. Images I easily recall when I’m thinking of sexy women I’ve seen. But in contrast to those images — perhaps less than half a dozen in all — I have seemingly endless memories of women walking down the street in tight shorts, short skirts, or flouncy dresses.
I imagine like most folks, I could spend a good hour or two — and probably have — just pulling up memories of sexy people I’ve seen in different venues — some from decades ago. But so few are from nudist resorts. I cannot be absolutely certain — memory is difficult to assess — but my guess is I have for the most part stored my nudist memories separately from my, “Wow! Look at her!” memories.
Now why is that?
Near as I can figure both from my own experience, and from talking with others about it, nudists do not regard nudity as primarily a sexual experience, except perhaps when they are still novices at nudism. Instead, nudity seems to be more an experience of openness, tolerance, and acceptance, than of sexuality.
That doesn’t mean the sexual feelings are entirely absent. But those feelings are far from dominant. They are typically secondary — or perhaps even further down the ladder than secondary. That is, in both my own experience, and — so far as I can tell — in the experience of many other nudists, you’re not oblivious to sex, but you usually become strangely insensitive to it.
I do not wish to give the impression I am against mixing sex with nudism. For all I know, it would be mind-blowing to have sex at a nudist resort. Nudity is a very emotionally intimate experience. I can imagine adding to that physical intimacy. And I know couples who do; I have yet to hear any of them complain.
Yet, so far as I can see, sex is not intrinsic to nudism. I can see making it sexy. But I don’t see it as necessarily sexy. Indeed, it seems seeing someone on the street in tight pants is most often sexier than seeing them nude at a resort.
If that’s the case, why do you suppose that is?