Comments on: Wanton Girl Watching

By: Paul Sunstone

Paul Sunstone — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 12:18:31 +0000

Me too, Ben! The toughest thing about winter for me is often the absence of women’s summerwear!

By: OmbudsBen

OmbudsBen — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 20:53:52 +0000

When I lived near Haight street there was a bar called the Gold Cane with a table right by a picture window looking out on the street. A lazy afternoon, a couple pints of beer and watching all the lovely young folk pass by …

Mmm, now I’m missing women’s summerwear.

By: Paul

Paul — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 14:25:20 +0000

Not a problem! I don’t mind being mistaken for a Canadian at all, AHumanBean. It seems to me that in many respects Canada today is where the US would be if — instead of having to fight the Cold War — we had put our energy into improving our society. That’s just my hunch.

By: ahumanbean

ahumanbean — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 14:02:18 +0000

Yes, I re-read the About Paul bit…gorgeous place, Colorado, from what I’ve seen on it on TV.

And of course you live in the US, not Canada, as I should have noted from all the Obama-Palin-McSame posts… My bad!

By: Paul

Paul — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 12:33:41 +0000

AHumanBean, I was up early to blog a bit this morning. I prefer to blog in the early morning when it’s quiet around these parts. I live in Colorado Springs, Colorado, USA.

I’ll pass along your compliment to Don. He’ll enjoy it!

By: ahumanbean

ahumanbean — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 10:58:16 +0000

Isn’t it 2 in the morning right now where you live!? (?Canada? USA?!)

In any case, I’m happy to read your reply so quickly

An aside and a toast: My best, sweetest, most dependable male buddies are all like your Don. I’ve worn the exact same outfit 4 times in a row and they really truly didn’t notice, for example! So – here’s to Don ( raises a flute of Taittinger)

By: Paul

Paul — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 08:44:46 +0000

Thank you for an excellent and thought-provoking comment, AHumanBean! Your mother sounds like a remarkable woman!

It seems to me the prejudices our societies instill in us concerning physical appearances do little more than to become obstacles in our path to seeing the beauty of most everyone. And that in itself damages the quality of our lives.

By: ahumanbean

ahumanbean — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 07:21:28 +0000

My Mom trained my eye to look for features, sharpness, character, symmetry in faces at an early age. She and I were the often the only people in a room to see the stunning beauty in a (dark-skinned) dark girl – labeled “black” and “ugly” by most others in India.

I am so grateful for this training, it’s a talent I use subconsciously all the time.

Today, I pride myself on my vision. I truly see grace and beauty ( occasionally also the ugliness and repulsiveness) in the physical manifestations of human beings. I’ve stopped defending my vision to those who blindly accept “fair” people to be handsome/beauteous ( i.e fair skin in India which is almost universally accepted as “beautiful”).

My dance instructor in India, was African American, from NY…I remember how some of my fellow Indians would constantly refer to him as black – or worse, in a tone of voice which indicated not-beautiful/handsome. It makes me cringe to this day. He was a magnificent example of health, strength and the handsome physique that I consider handsome in a man.

But – his skin tone and strong African facial features made him unattractive in some peoples’ eyes.

Cringe cringe cringe.
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V. interesting post , and well expressed, Paul!

Beauty is only…skin

By: Paul

Paul — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 21:41:49 +0000

You might be onto something there, Dinesh!

By: Dinesh Babu

Dinesh Babu — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 18:35:54 +0000

It is simple Paul, Don can see “The Matrix”, while you didn’t.